"Better Divorce Than Eulogy": Sonko Urges Kenyans to Stand Firm Against GBV

Former Nairobi governor Mike Sonko , has issued a powerful message urging Kenyans to take a firm stand against gender-based violence (GBV) and abusive relationships.

The  post on his X account comes after a viral video of him confronting his son - in - law for hitting  his daughter Salma . Sonko emphasized the importance of prioritizing safety over maintaining a harmful marriage.

A Call Against Abuse

The former governor stated:

"Instead of having an abusive relationship or marriage, it is better kuwa na divorce decree kwa nyumba than an eulogy booklet for your daughter or son. This educative process must continue until all our mothers, old or young, stand firmly against GBV."

Sonko’s words highlight the critical need to prevent abuse before it escalates, and he urged communities to speak out against violence.

His message is a reminder that no one should remain in a relationship where fear and harm replace love and respect.

The Incident That Sparked the Message

Sonko’s comments come just a day after he posted a viral video confronting his son-in-law for allegedly hitting Salma Sonko’s daughter.

Posting the video on his X account , he recounted receiving a distress call from his daughter, describing the emotional toll it took on the family:

"Today, we received a distress call from our daughter that shook us to the core—her voice trembling, her spirit broken. As a parent, nothing prepares you for the moment your child reaches out in fear, in pain, or in desperation. I acted immediately, because no mother or father can sit still when their child is hurting."

Reflecting on the wider societal problem, Sonko questioned the safety of countless young women and men in Kenya who silently endure abuse. He urged families to prioritize communication, patience, and understanding in relationships:

"Marriage is never a smooth road. It is built through storms and sunshine, through patience, forgiveness, and understanding. But when challenges turn into violence, when love turns into fear, then the very foundation of that marriage is shaken. No one deserves that."

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Sonko also offered guidance to couples on managing conflict:

"Please, choose peace. Choose dialogue before anger. Choose to pause, breathe, and talk rather than hurt the person you vowed to protect. Violence doesn’t solve anything—it only destroys the heart, the home, and the future."

Sonko Urges Men to Lead by Example Against Domestic Violence

Following the  viral video confronting his son-in-law for allegedly hitting his daughter, former Nairobi Governor Mike Sonko also called on men to respect the rights of women and children in their households.

He emphasized that violence—whether physical, emotional, or psychological—has long-lasting effects on families and communities.

Sonko advised young men to resolve conflicts peacefully: “Ukikosana na msichana usimpige, ongea naye, reach out to the parents.”

He highlighted the critical role of community leaders, religious figures, and local administrators in guiding men toward non-violent conflict resolution. Collaboration with women’s groups and civil society organizations, as well as awareness campaigns and educational programs, can help prevent domestic abuse and promote positive relationships at home.

Citing research, Sonko noted that children growing up in violent households often face emotional and behavioral challenges.

He stressed that ending domestic violence benefits both the immediate victims and society as a whole: “Let us create homes where love is safe, where voices are gentle, and where differences can be solved without breaking each other.”

Gender-Based Violence in Kenya

GBV continues to be a pressing issue in Kenya, affecting thousands of women and children every year. Survivors often experience physical, emotional, or sexual abuse, which can have lasting effects on mental health and well-being.

Advocates and public figures speaking out, like Sonko, play an important role in raising awareness and encouraging societal change.

Survivors in Kenya can access specialized centres that provide medical care, counselling, legal aid, and safe shelter.

GVRC – Gender Violence Recovery Centre (Nairobi): 24/7 helpline (0719‑638 006), trauma counselling, legal aid, medical care, and rehabilitation.

Usikimye (Nairobi): Safe shelters, psycho-social counselling, and community outreach.

CoVAW Kenya (Nairobi): Legal representation, advocacy, and empowerment programs.

CREAW Kenya (Nairobi): Counseling, legal support, research, and advocacy for women’s rights.

Together for Girls (National Coordination): Child protection, counseling, and community education programs.

Pesa Yetu (Nairobi): Economic empowerment, mentorship, and counseling services.