A discussion on communication in relationships dominated the Maina and King'ang'i morning show on Classic 105 after radio presenter Maina Kageni raised concerns about men who reportedly disappear from their homes for days without informing their partners.
While introducing the topic, Maina noted that the behavior was more common than many people may realize, saying some men leave home for several days without communicating with their spouses or partners. "Two things are happening here, and it is particularly concerning for men, and one of them is common to many men. It happens more often than people would like to admit. Some men disappear from home, leave on Wednesday, then come back on Tuesday the following week," Maina said.
He added that such prolonged silence often leaves partners unaware of their whereabouts or well-being. "You don't take calls, people don't know if you're alive or dead, and then you come back as a visitor in your own house. The issue of not communicating is everywhere, and it seems like so many women are dealing with the same thing," he added.
Raising the Question on Daily Communication Norms
Maina then invited listeners to weigh in on the issue by asking how often couples should communicate during the day.
"How often should you communicate with your woman? Is one phone call enough? And ladies, how many times does your man call or text you in a day? How do you handle it mentally when he goes quiet for hours or even days? Do you keep calling? Do you stop checking up on him? Or do you simply accept that it's just how he is? Because, truly, many ladies are fed up," he posed.
Listeners Weigh In: Peace-Seeking vs. Relationship Rules
The conversation quickly attracted reactions from listeners on X, with many offering different perspectives on communication in relationships. X user Jennifer Kanyiri described such men as "Wakora type of men," suggesting the behavior should not be normalized.
Another user, AORO, argued that some men spend long hours away from home in search of peace, claiming domestic disagreements contribute to the trend. "They're looking for outsider peace. Some men are scared of makelele, madharau ndogo ndogo. I saw another man during the World Cup tournaments who would find a spot in a nice club, watch the game the entire night. He'll visit his home in the morning, change and head to work," the user wrote.
Communication Breakdown and Differing Expectations
Meanwhile, Caleb Chauro shared his experience, saying communication in his relationship gradually reduced over time. "It reduced slowly to none unless there's an urgency due to her responses. She started taking longer to reply, saying she was busy and handling other important matters. Marriage is a calling. Lazima mtu ajitolee," he posted. Another listener, identified as Suleiman, responded to Maina's question by saying, "One call in every two weeks."
