Elsa Majimbo's Guide to Dating in LA: Multiple Partners Until "Official"

Influencer and comedienne Elsa Majimbo has shared insights into the dating culture in Los Angeles, where she resides. In a TikTok video, she explained that dating multiple people simultaneously is a norm in L.A.

“Dating in L.A. means seeing multiple people at the same time—it’s just understood,” she said on TikTok.

She elaborated, “It’s only when you’re officially boyfriend and girlfriend that it becomes exclusive. Before that, dating multiple people is normal. Here, being someone’s partner is serious—people move in together, have kids, or even get a dog. It’s a big commitment.”

She added, “No one asks, ‘What are we?’ after a few weeks or a month.”

Previously, Majimbo opened up about a past relationship with a partner who was both charming and toxic. “We had so much fun together. When I was with him, it felt like the rest of the world didn’t exist,” she shared.

However, she admitted, “We fought constantly. At some point, we realised it wasn’t healthy.”

Though they parted ways, they couldn’t stay apart entirely. “We kept seeing each other casually,” she said. “We both knew marriage wasn’t in our future.”

Describing him as a gentleman, she noted, “He always took me out for sushi because I love it.”

Once, she invited him to a fashion event where she admired several items. He offered to buy them for her, but later, when she wanted to go home to sleep, he questioned her. “He was like, ‘What do you mean you’re going home? I just bought you all those clothes,’” she recounted.

This sparked a heated argument. The next day, they continued arguing via text, and Majimbo realised the relationship was unhealthy. She blocked him.

Two months ago, she ran into him, and he demanded she unblock him, which she refused. “Be careful with intoxicating relationships,” she warned.

In another TikTok video, Majimbo urged women not to sacrifice their lives for men. “No matter what, don’t give up your dreams, job, or education for a man,” she said passionately on her TikTok account.

She echoed this sentiment on Twitter: “If you give up your dreams or life for a man, you’ll end up miserable. It’s not a question of ‘if’—it’s ‘when’.”

Majimbo cautioned that women who make such sacrifices often regret it. “It might seem like a good idea when you’re in love, but a decade later, you’ll look back and realise it was the biggest mistake of your life,” she said.

She described a common scenario: “You’ll find yourself with three kids you didn’t plan for because he wanted them. You’ll have no friends, no career, no job—nothing. Meanwhile, he’s built his career and reputation.”

Majimbo encouraged her fans to prioritise themselves. “The right man will meet you where you are. He won’t take from you; he’ll add to your life. He won’t ask you to give up your dreams—he’ll support the life you already have.”