Celeb Confessions: Murugi Munyi & Kate Actress Join Viral "Bar Was Too Low" Trend

From ‘Useless Things I Got My Child’ to ‘The Bar Was Too Low’

If you thought the ‘Useless Things I Got My Child’ trend was controversial, ‘The Bar Was Too Low’ challenge has taken things a step further.

The former saw women posting pictures of their baby daddies and labelling them as "useless things" (ouch!). Just when we thought TikTok couldn't get any wilder, the internet responded with, “Hold my ring light.”

Kenyan Celebrities Join the Trend

Unsurprisingly, Kenyan celebrities haven’t missed out on the trend. Award-winning actress Kate Kamau (Kate Actress) and popular podcaster Murugi Munyi both took part—and let’s just say, wueh!

Speaking on her podcast The Messy In-Between (TMI), Murugi left fans speechless with a jaw-dropping confession about her past dating life.

“There was a guy I once dated, and all our dates were in the club. Every single time, we got intimate in the club toilets,” she revealed to her co-host, Lydia K, who was visibly shocked.

Murugi reflected on her choices, admitting that if she could, she’d go back and give her younger self a hug for enduring such a situation.

“Imagine having to go to the club just to see your boyfriend and be intimate with him,” she added.

The confession instantly became a trending topic, leaving netizens torn between shock, amusement, and judgement.

Some questioned why she felt the need to share such intimate details, arguing that it was disrespectful to her husband and potentially embarrassing for her children.

Kate Actress’ Self-Love Spin on the Challenge

Unlike some of the more cringeworthy confessions, Kate Actress took a different, empowering approach to the trend.

Posting a video of herself flaunting her physique, she captioned it:

"The bar was too low when I kept choosing other people and neglected myself… This is me choosing KATE … I love it.”

Fans praised her for her dedication to her weight loss journey and for embracing self-love.

Should Some Secrets Stay Secret?

The challenge has sparked mixed reactions. While some find it entertaining and cathartic—after all, who doesn’t love a bit of tea—others believe some things are better left unsaid.

Actress Brenda Mitchell is among those who think certain confessions should remain private.

Meanwhile, some have clapped back at the criticism, suggesting that the loudest voices are simply upset that their own skeletons haven’t been exposed yet.

What Does ‘The Bar Was Too Low’ Mean?

The phrase refers to situations where someone's relationship standards were set at an unacceptably low level, making it easy for their partners to either meet or fail even the most basic expectations.

Many women who participated in the trend admitted they were in denial at the time, convincing themselves that their circumstances were normal simply because they wanted to be with someone.

Here are some real-life confessions from regular Kenyan women about just how low the bar was in their relationships:

Sacrificing Too Much for Too Little

The bar was so low that he broke up with me a day before my birthday to avoid buying me a gift, and I still wished him “sweet dreams, babe.”

The bar was so low that he bought himself dinner every night instead of giving me money for food. We lived together, but I was basically a starving roommate instead of a girlfriend.

Blind Love & Denial

The bar was so low that I texted a woman, thinking I was the "main chick" and she was the side chick—only to find out she was his wife.

The bar was so low that I used to lend him money so I could take him out for drinks—even though he was working, and I wasn’t. Call me Bob the Builder.

Losing Self-Worth for Love

The bar was so low that he body-shamed me—and instead of leaving, I went to the gym to “fix myself” for him.

The bar was so low that I paid his rent and funded his vacations.