Kenyan content creator Bro Mfalme has sparked a lively debate on social media after suggesting that men who know how to cook, wash clothes and clean dishes are “red flags.”
Speaking in a video that has since circulated widely online, Bro Mfalme argued that men should embrace a more carefree lifestyle instead of taking on household chores.
“A man who knows how to cook, wash clothes and dishes is a red flag. A man is supposed to be a reckless person,” he said.
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His remarks quickly drew thousands of reactions, with many social media users disagreeing and insisting that basic life skills have nothing to do with masculinity.
Kenyans defend self-reliance
A significant number of commenters said every adult, regardless of gender, should be capable of taking care of themselves.
Instagram user joe_a_amaru wrote: “That’s how we raise irresponsible men. Self-reliance is a skill every man should have.” kenyan_banker echoed the sentiment, saying: “Speak for yourself. I can do anything, and I believe every man should be able to do so.”
Some criticised the advice.
Several users dismissed Bro Mfalme’s opinion as misguided. deejay_mixstar reacted with: “Nonsense.” local_c.e.o commented: “I can’t take this advice.”
User its.travis._ argued that Bro Mfalme should avoid speaking on behalf of all men. “Speak for yourself. Say, ‘Me as a man.’ Don’t say ‘men.’”
Others responded with humour. onyisoedits joked: “A man shouldn’t hang paintings in his house. Hang steel wire instead and be reckless.” Meanwhile, Sheriff C. Sheriffc. remarked: “You have a powerful name (Mfalme), but you’re powerless.”
Different experiences, different views
Some commenters suggested that upbringing often shapes people’s views on household responsibilities.
steveausteen_ke wrote: “Those of us raised by single mothers had to do everything. Stop misleading people.” Similarly, Amenyahesbon revealed he handled household chores before getting married. “I did that before marriage in a better way.”
Others chose humour over criticism.
thisiscrushal joked: “There’s so much advice these days that I don’t even know which one to follow.”
Changing attitudes
Bro Mfalme’s remarks have reignited a familiar discussion about masculinity and domestic responsibilities in modern society.
While opinions remain divided online, the overwhelming response to Bro Mfalme’s comments centred on one message: many Kenyans believe self-reliance is a strength, not a weakness.
