Some lessons are not learned in classrooms.They are found in unfamiliar streets,hidden in new cultures,and discovered the courage to see the world through different eyes.
That sentiment echoed across social media after Kenyan author and entrepreneur Lillian Ng’ang’a shared a thought-provoking message encouraging young women to pursue life experiences rather than be impressed by material displays.
In a post shared on her Instagram Stories, Lillian offered what she described as a prayer for young girls.
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“My prayer for young girls: May life (not wababas) accord you travel when you are young, so you don’t get excited and impressed by nonsense. Exposure will save you from a lot of BS.”
The message quickly spread across social media, sparking debate over the role of travel, financial independence, and relationships in shaping young women’s perspectives.
A call for exposure
Lillian’s message centred on one idea: exposure changes perspective.Travelling introduces people to different cultures, lifestyles and experiences.
Many educators and psychologists have long argued that exposure to diverse environments can broaden thinking, improve confidence and encourage independent decision-making.
Rather than focusing on luxury, Lillian suggested that life experiences can help young women recognise their worth and avoid being easily impressed by material possessions or financial promises.
“Exposure will save you from a lot of BS.”
Her words resonated with some followers, but they also drew criticism from others who questioned whether travel is accessible to everyone.
Social media users push back
While some appreciated the message, many online users criticised the post.Several argued that travelling is a privilege that many young women cannot afford because of economic realities.
jus_nyakagwa:insha'Allah to everyones dream 🙌
memesclub_ke:Ata mimi nawaombea wapate pesa zao
Others said the advice overlooked the financial challenges facing many young people, including unemployment and the rising cost of living.
_ibrah_:Ye amesurvive na wababa hataki wengine wafaidike😂😂
jackie_ogaga:Life is short, whatever works for you girls. Wacha nirudi I hustle
Some users questioned why relationships and financial support were being linked to travel, while others argued that exposure can also come through education, work, mentorship and personal experiences without necessarily leaving the country.
A number of commenters maintained that personal growth should not be measured by the number of places someone has visited.
A conversation beyond travel
Lillian’s post has once again highlighted how social media can transform a simple opinion into a wider public discussion.
Her message has fuelled conversations about independence, financial freedom and what it means to gain exposure in today’s world.
Whether through travel, education or everyday experiences, the discussion reflects a broader question facing many young people: what truly shapes perspective?
