Preparing for the Third Term: Essential Tips for Parents

As the third academic term for 2025 begins today, August 25th, running until October 24th, parents are once again navigating the return to school.

Transitions can bring a mix of excitement and anxiety for children and adults alike.

Ensuring a smooth return involves careful preparation and empathetic support. Here’s a guide on what to do and what to avoid.

Getting Ready: Practical Steps for a Calm Start

Do start preparing early, well before the term begins. This includes gradually adjusting sleep routines.

Move bedtimes back by 15 to 20 minutes each night until children are back on their school schedule. Adequate sleep is vital for learning, concentration, and avoiding health issues like depression or diabetes.

For younger children, 10-12 hours of sleep is optimal, while adolescents need 8-10 hours.

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Do check if all school materials like uniforms, books, and devices are ready in advance. Involve your child in choosing supplies and packing their bag; this can build excitement.

Creating calm morning routines helps reduce anxiety, so eliminate chaos and keep mornings peaceful. Preparing lunches and laying out clothes the night before can make the first day less stressful.

Don’t wait until the night before to check on important items. This can lead to rushing and feeling unprepared.

Addressing Worries: Emotional Support is Key

Do talk to your children about their feelings regarding school. Ask what they are looking forward to and what might be worrying them.

Validate their emotions, letting them know it’s normal to have mixed feelings. Reassure them that you will see them after school and remind them of what they enjoy about learning and friends.

Do model calm behaviour yourself, as children often pick up on parental anxiety. If your child has worries, talk to the school staff, such as the class teacher or pastoral lead. You can also suggest connecting with school friends before returning to break the ice.

Don’t pass on your own anxieties to your child. Avoid giving mixed messages that suggest school attendance is optional, as clear, direct communication provides a sense of safety.

When Things Get Tough: Navigating School Avoidance

For children struggling significantly, the approach needs to be targeted and compassionate.

Do speak to the school as soon as concerns arise. Work with your child and the school to identify triggers for anxiety, such as bullying, sensory overload, or learning challenges.

Do request specific changes at school, like seating adjustments, sensory accommodations, or a designated safe space and person for your child to go to when overwhelmed. A strong, trusted relationship with a staff member can help your child feel safer.

The third term is the shortest term of the year, running for nine weeks, and is when national examinations like KPSEA and KCSE are scheduled to take place in October and November.