Kenyan musician and businesswoman Akothee has shut down online critics trying to advise her on how to treat men.
Her passionate response on social media comes just a day after relationship commentator Caterira claimed that helping men financially is not feminine.
Akothee's Outspoken Response
Akothee made it clear that she will continue to support the men she loves, regardless of public opinion.
In a social media post, she admitted that she has always gone all out for her partners.
"I am one of those women who does everything for a man, I have messed up everything already so don’t tell me what not to do for a man because I already did everything that he never appreciated," she posted.
She acknowledged that her past efforts were not always valued. However, she refused to change her behaviour.
The businesswoman insisted she would make the same choices in the future. She urged critics to keep their relationship rules to themselves.
"So keep your ‘don’t do this for a man!’ I won’t listen Because we all have different Love language."
She concluded her post with a defiant message:
"Just let me burn as long as It doesn’t kill me."
Caterira Sparks the Debate
The online conversation began when relationship commentator Caterira shared her personal rules on attraction and financial support. Speaking on social media, Caterira argued that financial support should not come from women.
"Once I help a man, he ceases to be attractive," Caterira stated.
She believes that women should not support men. In her view, men should support their male peers when one of them is going through a difficult period.
Caterira's comments are rooted in traditional gender roles. She believes material support from a woman alters relationship dynamics and ruins attraction.
Many men struggle to ask for help when they face financial setbacks. Societal expectations often portray men as sole providers. This makes asking for assistance very difficult.
A man facing unemployment or business failure may hesitate to approach family or friends. He often fears being judged for failing to handle his responsibilities.
The public remains divided on how partners should support each other in a relationship.
Some agree with Caterira that traditional roles maintain attraction. They believe men should turn to other men for help.
Others argue that healthy relationships require mutual support. They believe help should be based on need rather than gender.
