A Kenyan pastor has sparked widespread discussion after urging parents and older family members to stop asking young people when they intend to get married.
In a message shared on social media, the pastor appealed to older generations to be more mindful of the pressure such questions can create.
She said people should avoid repeatedly asking others why they are still single or when they plan to settle down.
She said people should avoid repeatedly asking others why they are still single or when they plan to settle down.
“Please stop asking young people when they will get married.”
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The pastor also called on parents and other adults to reflect on the impact of their words, saying they should repent for making marriage a constant topic of conversation.
She admitted that she had previously asked similar questions herself and took the opportunity to apologise to young people.
“I have done that before, and I regret it. I want to apologise to the youth.”
According to her, not everyone is ready for marriage at the same stage of life. Some people may be focusing on their careers, education, personal growth, or healing from past experiences before making such a commitment.
Marriage trends continue to change.
Her remarks come at a time when marriage patterns are shifting in Kenya and many other parts of the world.
Young adults are increasingly choosing to marry later than previous generations, often citing economic challenges, career priorities, and the high cost of weddings and raising a family.
Young adults are increasingly choosing to marry later than previous generations, often citing economic challenges, career priorities, and the high cost of weddings and raising a family.
Social media users weigh in.
The pastor’s comments attracted hundreds of reactions online, with many users thanking her for addressing a topic they say affects many young adults.
One user, glam254kenya, simply wrote: “Thank you so much, madam.” Others suggested that parents should focus on supporting young people in different ways. User bictorochieng commented: “The right question is asking the youth why they’re not employed or how to help them get daily bread!!”
Meanwhile, official_wyclife joked about forwarding the message to family members, writing: “How can I send this to my parents 😂😂?” Another user, lioneldesparta, reacted humorously by saying: “Tutajoin your church sasa😂.”
Not everyone agreed entirely with the pastor’s message. presenter_m.a.i.n.a remarked: “Kuoa ni mentality 😂mamamba oyee.”
