A lot of parents today are desperate to break the cycle of how they grew up. They are insistent on raising children differently from how they were raised. The issue here is they are focused on how not to raise the kids, but nobody is planning on how to raise the kids. They focus so much on things they do not want to do that they completely miss the mark on how to raise their children.

It’s almost as if they are focusing too much on reading the script of what not to do that they fail on making parenting plans that will guide them on being the ideal parents they wish to be. As such, we end up with children brought up in confusing environments. Kids who understand the roles of other people in society but fail to attach the value and respect to the respective title.

These parents raise their children to believe that only them and their feelings are what matter in any situation. We are raising a generation of individualistic young people who believe their rights and freedom are above all else. They continuously clash because everyone wants to be seen and heard over the other.

It has been interesting to watch some of my friends raising their children. Kids who are incredibly spoiled and can trash a place in seconds! But what is more interesting to me as an observer is the obliviousness of the chaos their children unleash. Someone visits your home with their children and they unleash a tornado of chaos and catastrophe in your peaceful home in a matter of minutes.

During the visit, you find yourself parenting the child in that short visit more than their own parents. And you wonder how these people live. You wonder what their objective is in raising these kids. Don't we all want to raise respectable members of society?

In some countries, the law does not help. The laws are involved too much in “protecting” the child even from their own parents. But what constitutes the frameworks of protection is debatable. Parents can no longer punish their children with anything that is considered harmful to their kids. This could range from spanking, shouting at them or taking away what is considered the child's personal item.

Parenting is already hard enough to do because there is no script on raising children and no one-fits-all approach. With the new school approaches and legal procedures enforced on parents either by society or by themselves. Instead of using our past traumas as the guiding light on how to raise children, we need to put more effort into how we want to raise our children simply as good people.